Hair: I went to therapy with my hairdresser and now we’re closer than ever


The ship is sinking and you can only save one more person onboard. Do you choose your significant other or your hairdresser? Well… a girl is going to need fresh hair to meet a new lover …

When it comes to relationships, any woman with a beating heart will tell you that finding ‘the one’, a hairdresser that won’t make her cry, won’t let her down, will listen to her bitch and complain for an hour and will always make her feel on fleek is about as hard as finding a life partner. So what to do when you have found the one? It’s not as simple as booking a 6-weekly appointment. As with any relationship, it takes communication…

Maintaining relationships requires work and we would hate for you to have to break up with your stylist so we turned to hairdresser extraordinaire Kevin Murphy to gain a few tips on how to keep the communication going. We are here to ensure your next ‘trim’ does not end in a bob, you don’t end up with layers when you wanted blunt and that you don’t mistreat your hairdresser and find yourself on the ‘fully booked’ list. And at the end of it all, if it really is time to break up, we are here to teach you how to do it the right way (and this doesn’t include a SATC style post-it note). 



For Kevin Murphy’s sake, don’t…

Turn up to your appointment with really, really, really greasy hair. Stylists hate it when they have to handle hair that is dirty. It can be not so nice to touch.

When you say trim your stylist will think…

We can do better than that! (So be sure you make it VERY clear in centimeter terms)! 

When it comes to cuts use your words wisely…

Be careful when you say ‘thin it out’, ‘take loads off’ or ‘ I haven’t cut my hair in 3 years!’

Always come prepared with a photo because…

It’s helpful to see what your version of a colour or a particular length is in a photo. You also need to always make sure the picture is of hair that you love and not just a person you love or wish you looked like. We only have hands, not wands!

Consider a consultation before a big change…

This is a must. Always chat it through with your stylist first – sometimes your idea of a big change is different to what your hairdresser considers to be a big change – and sometimes you don’t actually need to cut loads off to make a big change. It’s always about the hair you leave on, not the hair you cut off.

When attending ask these 3 questions…

  1. What would your recommendation for me be if I said ‘go for it’
  2. What are the best products to use to maintain my hair and style
  3. What is the best way to style my hair

Be realistic…

Always bring in a photo of a hairstyle that you really love and you will be happy with.

The best way to handle a result you are unhappy with is…

Talk to your stylist. Let them know exactly what you are unhappy with and what isn’t working for you. Do it on the spot – never leave a salon unhappy, workshop it straight away, it may just require a quick fix. Don’t waste time and energy crying yourself to sleep because you think you have bad hair – get it sorted right away.



Consider buying the shampoo and conditioner your stylist suggests because…

Your hair stylist will know what your hair texture is like and what your hair and scalp requires. Everyone is always told that they have thin hair but this is not always the case, and your hairstylist will be able to help you work this out and recommend the right products.

Do your research. A good stylist will always have…

A great looking Instagram, knowledge of the latest trends, great product knowledge and a sore back from standing all day.

Speak up when required and by that we mean…

While we’re working on your look our concentration is key. Make sure you have all the important questions out of the way before we start and you are confident with what is about to happen – tell us all your thoughts and expectations first, then sit back and enjoy the experience.

If you are a low-maintenance hair girl then…

Make sure you remember this when you are sitting in a stylist’s chair, don’t promise you will straighten your curls every day if you know you will lose interest after a day. Speak up and let your stylist know that you need a great haircut that works with your texture and style with minimum effort required to upkeep the look.

The appropriate way to break up with a hairdresser is…

This is never easy. You can always just not re-book but if you are also friends with your stylist, it is nice to let them know that you appreciate all they have done and respect them and their work. Tell them you just need a change – ‘it’s not you, it’s me’. Or you can move states so you never have to have that awkward conversation.

Parting love note. Your stylist will love you if..

You trust them – follow their advice and bring lots of snacks, sweet treats, and champagne. This will always get you a little extra love.